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March 22, 2007


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Gawd. I can't believe some people. Please tell me you aren't getting this kind of stuff from fellow infertiles. I would think we should all be educated enough to understand what a huge thing this is, not just for you but for the babies as well. Hoping for you Karen. For what, I am not exactly sure. I am just hoping for the best possible outcome for all involved.

Malky B.

What's the name of your other blog? It sounds like your really considering not reducing. I have a friend in brooklyn who has triplets and also had to think about reducing but didn't. Let me know if you want to talk to her. As far as I know they are all healthy and 10 years old right now. I'm pretty sure they were born fairly large as well. Don't know all the details but I'm sure she'd be happy to talk to you.


I love it when fellow frummies just assume you're going to go off the derech and decide not to consult a Rav. Yeah, cause that would almost happen. While you're getting all wild and crazy and disavowing the life you lead, have a bit of bacon for me, no?B'shaa tovah. This too will resolve itself in good time.


Oh, and I forgot. With 3x Day School tuition, you're going to have to make aliyah with us. :)


I'm sure, after all that, you'd appreciate some support. I understand everyone is entitled to their opinions, etc. etc. but firstly, let me start by saying I admire your honesty and on the net too! Brave!No one, unless they're in your current situation or has triplets themselves (and no "I know someone who has", not the same thing at all), can understand what your feeling or what it may be like in the future with triplets.As an infertile, I completely understand your happiness at finally being pregnant and as a mother of one, I completely understand your horror at finding out there are three! At least your honest in saying you have mixed feelings, it shows your integrity.One child is a blessing but it has its difficult moments (only someone with integrity or honesty will ever admit that fact). So three, all at the same time, I can only imagine! Of course you appreciate that G-d (note the dash :) gave you even one, but you seem to understand the realism of your situation, which I admire.You seem to have the intelligence to realise that three at once is going to be hard and your being honest about that. I'd much prefer to read you say you want the best for your babies but worry that three is over your head, then read you cooing about how cute triplets will be without the real understanding of the reality of such a situation. Your head seems to be very much screwed on and not in the clouds, which makes for a great parent! Babies are no picnic, to the delusion of many infertile bloggers who go on about wanting twins etc. so only you have the right to choose what is right for you and your husband. It's your life, not anyone else's.I'm sorry people are so righteous. Frummers and usual the worst because they go by the book and forget that there are human feelings involved. I'm sure, if your Rav is good, he will be understanding and a great source of help and comfort.


I just found your site recently (around when you found out you are pregnant) and think that all of your emotions/worries/thoughts make perfect sense. All of those questions are overly judgemental and actually somewhat rude.I really appreciate your thoughts on reduction, because it is something that is swirling around in my head right now. I'm ~6w5d pregnant right now, and will find out in a week if it is a singleton (I was taking Femera to help me ovulate)... If it isn't a singleton, I may be encouraged to reduce because my uterus may not be able to carry twins. I guess I just wanted you to know that there are non-judgemental people out here who think that you make as much sense as you can in a situation like this!


Oh, those questions get me really angry! This is YOUR body and YOUR situation. I may have never experienced anything remotely close to a triplet pregnancy, but I can certainly imagine the mixed emotions, and probably mighty powerful emotions. 3 babies are exciting, but scary! It will take a high risk pregnancy and lots of work to get to see them grow up.This is a very scary time, and I understand all your feelings. I have actually been talking about your situation with my husband, because it brings to light the possibility of unexpected multiple pregnancy when you take fertility drugs without doing IVF. Because you've been brave enough to be open and honest about your emotions, I feel I am more equipped to face a multiple pregnancy if that should happen to me. I want to thank you for talking about everything so openly.I won't be stopping my reading any time soon!


Ahhh... the questions we get. I love this post. You're my hero!(and I appreciate that someone else out there doesn't use the dash! Since when was "God" God's real name anyhow?)


We are in the same boat (except I'm packing two, not three, as you are, and I'm not an Orthodox Jew.) I'm also a two-timing blog writer, I too have gotten the same responses you have, and I also want to shrug my shoulders and simply say: You don't know me. You don't know my life. You know how you are, which may be nothing like me. Just accept I'm handling things differently to you.In the meantime, know that you're not alone, and there are others struggling with the same thrill and fear that you have.


I just want to say good luck with whatever decisions you may make, and I'm sure you'll make the right decision for yourself. I really am very impressed with how honest and open you are on your blog. I love it. And I'm totally with you on the God thing. I never use the dash.


I loved the Q&A! Some people make the worse assumptions about a situation like this. And I love that despite all you are able to keep your sense of humor intact. You are my hero!

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